Keeping office dating a secret
“Just the sound of that special someone’s name can change their focus and behavior, to the point where you can see physical changes in the brain,” says Sukel.
“If your cubicle mate suddenly has to join in every conversation mentioning that one cute guy, seems very aware of where he is, what he says and what he’s doing, and makes a point of bringing him up whenever she can, there’s a good chance there is a romance on the horizon.” Sign #2 – Hanging out Sophia Lam, 30, crossed paths with her now-husband, Roger when they both worked as customer service representatives at e Bay in Burnaby, B. Initially, they didn’t feel any attraction until they started to hang out in the same circle of co-workers about a year and a half later.
To be blunt, there are rules to these sort of things.
On the downside, it also presents a wealth of potential wrinkles — perceptions of favoritism, concerns from colleagues, issues with the chain of command, etc. We’ve told you how to land a date with a coworker, but, because there are plenty of reasons why it’s important to keep your relationship on the down-low, we’re here to tell you how to do it without interrupting standard business.
So, first and foremost, consider: What are my employer’s rules on office romance?
Is there a formal policy against employees becoming romantically intertwined?
“A woman would place her hand on a man’s chest or he would grasp her hand with familiarity – they tried to make it appear as if there was no connection, but clearly there was.” Sign #4 – Digital evidence Between email, Facebook, texting and Twitter, technology can make flirting in the workplace oh so convenient, but it can also be a fast track for disaster.
“Employees would frequently schedule lunch time or breaks together, but the biggest giveaway was flirtatious touching,” says Hines.
another department, or subsidiary) where on-the-job concerns are less pronounced, or are less visible to colleagues. Should I be secretive or open about the relationship? Hang out in each others’ offices with doors closed? For example: What if you’re both vying for a management position and only one person can get promoted – how can you keep similar career paths from colliding with spectacular effect? On the job, you may be asked to review others’ work, give unflattering feedback, or deliver unwelcome news – how can you keep your feelings for your partner from getting in the way of doing your job? Consider how you can carve out stress-relieving time and space for each of yourselves. Dating a coworker and office romances aren’t easy, but, as thousands of happy couples can tell you, they can often work out.