Dating verse courtship
Of course, the courtship style presents its own set of difficulties.While many courtship advocates see it as the only choice for finding a mate, others find it oppressive and overly controlling.Question: "What is the difference between dating and courting?" Answer: Dating and courtship are two methods of beginning relationships with the opposite sex.It is important to remember that neither dating nor courtship is mandated in Scripture.
Courtship takes the position that the two people have no physical contact at all (no touching, no hand-holding, no kissing) until marriage.Our culture finds it hard to make such judgements because the dating scene seems to be an expression of "teenagers in love" - and love is thought to be something that just happens, over which we have no control.Dating is part of the lie of the enemy that is ensnaring our young people.If a couple is never alone together, they never have that one-on-one opportunity to relate and get to know one another in emotional and spiritual intimacy.
In addition, some courtship situations have led to borderline “arranged marriages” by the parents and have resulted in resentment in one or both of the young people.Laying a solid foundation in this area is a parental reponsibility, but the church has a responsibility to hold the family accountable to the Word of God.