Dating and courtship in preparation for marriage
It's one of those words with which most people are familiar, but have vastly differing opinions of what it means. It summons visions of men women with small tokens of affection and asking their hand in marriage on bended knee.For social scientists, studies of courtship usually look at the process of "mate selection." (Social scientists, among whom I number myself from time to time, will never be accused of being romantics.) For the purpose of this article the , prior to the early 20th century, courtship involved one man and one woman spending intentional time together to get to know each other with the expressed purpose of evaluating the other as a potential husband or wife.If you are familiar with computer programming terminology, you can liken dating to a sub-routine that has been added to the system of courtship.Over the course of this two-part article, I would like to trace how this change occurred, especially concentrating on the origin of this dating "subroutine." Let me begin by briefly suggesting four cultural forces that assisted in moving from, as Alan Carlson puts it, the more predictable cultural script that existed for several centuries, to the multi-layered system and (I think most would agree) the more ambiguous courtship system that includes "the date." The first, and probably most important change we find in courtship practices in the West occurred in the early 20th century when courtship moved from public acts conducted in private spaces (for instance, the family porch or parlor) to private or individual acts conducted in public spaces, located primarily in the entertainment world, as Beth Bailey argues in her book, .Remember: you are NOT a bad person for having caved in to temptation in the past, but if you want to please God and value yourself, you truly need to put the past behind you and grow to be the woman or man that God intended you to be for Him, for yourself, and for others.
The new courtship system gave importance to This new language of courtship had great symbolic importance and continues to shape the way we think, speak and act concerning relationships to this day.
you NEED to respect yourself and value your body, mind and spirit enough to just say no to those who pressure you to have sex.
God created the beautiful person you areon the inside and outside, and if you disrespect yourself, you are essentially disrespecting Gods creation.
Its not being tempted thats the problem; the problem is falling into it and doing things that goes against Gods plan for you. Pray about it and the Lord will help you to explain to your friend, who may be pressuring you that you want to stay pure for yourself and for God! If someone continues to pressure you to have sex with them then it may be time to evaluate that friendship.
A true friend would never do anything that would harm you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.The man and the woman usually were members of the same community, and the courting usually was done in the woman's home in the presence (and under the watchful eye) of her family, most often Mom and brothers.